The Splash You Make
from Positive outlook website
My Cherokee grandpa taught me
this lesson when I was seven. He took me to a fishing hole and asked me
to throw a rock into the pond. He asked me what I saw, and I replied that
I saw a splash. He asked me what else I saw, and I said a circle of water
and another circle and another circle. He then told me that every person
was responsible for the kind of splash they made in the world and that the
splash would touch many other circles, creating a ripple effect. I sat
there and watched the water until he asked me to notice the muddy bank where we
were sitting. He pointed out that one of the circular waves made by my
rock was lapping at my feet, having found its way back to me. Then he
told me that we all need to be careful of the kinds of splashes we make in the
world, because the waves we create will always come back to us. If those
splashes were hurtful, we will not welcome them back, but if the splash and the
waves were made from goodness, we will be happy to see them come home.
The teachings of all major
religions on our planet show us these same truths. They ask us to be loving,
to respect one another, and to become influences for good. We can see the
truth of these teachings when we see that energy abundantly flows through a
person who has not tied up his or her life force with feelings of jealousy,
envy, and the need for revenge. By contrast, people pursuing a lawsuit,
for example, feel like they cannot get on with their lives while so much of
their emotions, time, and energy are tied up in a court battle. The same
limiting ineffectiveness occurs when we waste our energy on regretting the
past, fearing the future, or battling with negative thoughts or feelings.
These activities create a dam of stagnant energy inside of us that keeps us
from living life in a synchronistic and abundant manner.
From the moment
that we experience synchronistic joy in our lives, we are put on notice that we
must become aware of every thought, feeling, and action that we put into the
world, owning them all as our creations. Accountability for all aspects
of our lives is a tall order. The levels of what we are willing to be
accountable for continue to increase as we grow, allowing us to be more
aware. Forgiveness toward ourselves and toward others is of paramount
importance. If we cannot forgive others and ourselves, letting go of the
wounds encountered in the situations we have experienced, we get stuck.
When we refuse to forgive, we are asking for a pop quiz. These pop
quizzes can come in the form of life situations that force us to look at our
Imagine a sponge that is set in
a dish of water until all the water is absorbed into the sponge. The
sponge cannot soak up any more moisture because it is holding on to every drop
it has absorbed. When we hold on to our resentments and fears, our anger
and bitterness, there is no room in our life for other thoughts, experiences,
or feelings. To the degree that we do not release our negative feelings
and hidden resentments, we are effectively soaked in them. The creative
force of life cannot flow through us when we have dammed any part of it.
This lessens our ability to embrace new experiences. When we clutch our
wounds, using them as justifiable reasons for not moving forward, our life
force is used to fuel our avoidance mechanisms.
Forgiveness and the release of
the past open the creative flow of life, supporting all levels of mind, heart,
body, emotion, and spirit. This energy flow determines the state of our
health, our desire to create and procreate our willingness to develop our
gifts, and how we use or deny the life force that we are given as human beings.
. . . by choosing to let go of the past, our fears, and our negative patterns
or reactions to life, we are suddenly funded with a resurgence of life force,
which propels us into a newfound way of being and a very different way of
understanding the world.